Plan your thinking, save your life

think positively

I had a great day today, hope you did too, but let me tell you that my day didn’t start out so great. I had to work at it. I accomplished that by working on my thinking patterns. Often in coaching, that’s my goal of what I want to get down to talking about is peoples thinking patterns. However it is just not that easy to get people to respond to “Tell me everything you are thinking about, word for word, right now!”, haha, so I work on the relationship, which to me is most important.

That’s my mind ninja-customer service trick, getting down to thinking patterns, where it all begins. I have some things going on in life, as all of us do, with kids and work and all that jazz, and I woke up feeling not-so-great. But my bigger mind-ninja trick is more basic really. I PLAN to have positive thinking patterns. It’s work! And it’s a process. You’ll often hear me say that just like we want our emergency responders practicing and preparing and training before the actual crisis, we have to practice and prepare for our stress crisis. It is in the down-time that we have to decide what does positive thinking mean to us? Where do we want to go with our thoughts? And where would we rather be, thought-wise? We should care about these things!

Emergency responders don’t get to a crisis and say “What do we do? I don’t like the way this is going” and desperately seek for resolve, no, they prepare over and over and over and over on how to respond to numerous life or death situations until it becomes a natural reaction. (Maybe there is a way you relate to this? Please let me know. As a mother I know that when I hear crying or see blood, I click into E.R. mode.) Emergency responders are prepared for crisis when it hits because they have practiced scenario after scenario, role play and thought exercises, so that when crisis hits, their mind goes into a focused auto pilot of knowing exactly what to do. (THANK YOU TO ALL EMERGENCY RESPONDERS!!!) They can now respond to the crisis with tools they have practiced and they know what to do! Genius. They respond with sureness and not question that they are going to do their best effort in resolving this crisis. This is what we need to do with our thinking.

Often I am replaying thoughts in my mind of, and making notes in a journal of ‘what I would prefer to happen’ and what the ‘best solution’ would be. I am making lists and focusing on solutions and meditating on goodness, wellness and positive aspects. So this morning when I woke up in a not-so-great mood, my mind would not let me go past a certain point because I have practiced more upward thoughts than not! I am so blessed and thankful for these experiences. My mind went right to reasons I need to appreciate, reasons why I am blessed and all the things I love and appreciate about my life and what I have to look forward to. We all have those things to be thankful for, even when we think we have not.

Every morning we each wake up with a clean slate. Sleep cleanses our thoughts like turning on the dishwasher at night. It is us that makes the mistake of letting our minds wander and remember ‘oh ya, I’m miserable because of…” and there we go again. But if you can start practicing your emergency thought crisis planning now, deciding what that would look like and feel like, you can start to get out of that mindset quicker when the crisis happens. It definitely takes practice. Change is a process!!!

Create positive statements and affirmations to recite at random times throughout the day, especially before bed and when you wake up. Those are precious times. Your mind is between a state of sleep-unconsciousness and consciousness, which is a sneaky way to reach your beliefs. Your beliefs after all, are just what you continue to think about all the time.

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Jessica Dumas

Live a good full life and don’t look back


I lost a baby brother 8 years ago. Okay, he wasnt a baby, but he was 8 years younger than me. He was 18. In a lot of ways it made me have to grow up and take care of some serius business for my mom. What it taught me the most was to appreciate life. People often tell me that I am always “so positive” and that if they called me when they were down, they felt better at the end of our conversation. I feel good about that. I work hard on “self development” to make myself that way but I truly beleive that the gifts I share are from Creator God and not from myself.

I looked at my Matthew & Leon tattoo yesterday, (Leon was my cousin, also 18 years old when he died, 14 months after Matthew, they were best friends), and I started crying and could not stop. I havent looked at this tattoo in a long time, the way I did last night. It was as if something jumped out to me to say “Hey, Remember!” and it occoured to me that with all of my heart and all of my wishes, I am meant to have the most fulfilling good life, because life is so short and it breaks my heart that Matthew and Leon didnt have a chance to make that declaration in their life.

Matthew and Leon, two aboriginal boys grown up in the North End, learning, maybe slowly or not at all, the possibilities of life. Maybe thay had hopes and dreams and wishes, that they never had the chance to develop into words, yet alone actions. Maybe they didnt know that they could have dreams. Because no one told me that when I was 18.

Today I dream big. Sometimes I think “maybe I should shut up? I havent accomplished a lot on my list of goals.” But maybe I should keep going and keep beleiving that I can reach those goals. Maybe I can’t tell Matthew and Leon that they can be anything they want to be, but I do ask most young people I meet “What do you want to do when you graduate high school?”. My intention with that question is to plants two seeds: 1. Me, graduate high school? and 2. What will I do after high school? Again, I ask these questions because no one ever asked me that when I was 18.

One of my many goals is to make life fun, rich and peaceful and do what I want to do and not to let obstacles stop me. I want to speak my mind and know and accept that I can be incredible. I always beleive that life can only get better and all the dreams and desires in our hearts are only for us and we give life to those dreams if we want to. I wish for everyone world peace, just kidding, I wish that people would be more confident in the fact that they can be awesome, and not let obstacles stop you and feel like you have to succumb your dreams to the views of what other people think.

I have lots of dreams.

“History is history” -grandpa

I spent some time ‘interviewing’ gramma and grampa today. I wanted to know more about their childhood because they didn’t volunteer their stories. I wanted to hear what their thoughts were on what kind of changes they had seen in the world in their day. I didnt prepare a script, I just asked questions as they seemed to fit. I didnt find out a whole lot of new information but that my great grandpa Shorting picked and sold seneca root. Gramma grew up in the city after age 2. Her family would go home for the summer but there were never any kids around. When she asked where they were, she was told “they are at school”. Some cousins she never saw again.

Grandpa made a few comments but said to me “dont write that down”.

On the other hand, his dad told him to find out how his great relatives worked with Lious Riel.