Plan your thinking, save your life

think positively

I had a great day today, hope you did too, but let me tell you that my day didn’t start out so great. I had to work at it. I accomplished that by working on my thinking patterns. Often in coaching, that’s my goal of what I want to get down to talking about is peoples thinking patterns. However it is just not that easy to get people to respond to “Tell me everything you are thinking about, word for word, right now!”, haha, so I work on the relationship, which to me is most important.

That’s my mind ninja-customer service trick, getting down to thinking patterns, where it all begins. I have some things going on in life, as all of us do, with kids and work and all that jazz, and I woke up feeling not-so-great. But my bigger mind-ninja trick is more basic really. I PLAN to have positive thinking patterns. It’s work! And it’s a process. You’ll often hear me say that just like we want our emergency responders practicing and preparing and training before the actual crisis, we have to practice and prepare for our stress crisis. It is in the down-time that we have to decide what does positive thinking mean to us? Where do we want to go with our thoughts? And where would we rather be, thought-wise? We should care about these things!

Emergency responders don’t get to a crisis and say “What do we do? I don’t like the way this is going” and desperately seek for resolve, no, they prepare over and over and over and over on how to respond to numerous life or death situations until it becomes a natural reaction. (Maybe there is a way you relate to this? Please let me know. As a mother I know that when I hear crying or see blood, I click into E.R. mode.) Emergency responders are prepared for crisis when it hits because they have practiced scenario after scenario, role play and thought exercises, so that when crisis hits, their mind goes into a focused auto pilot of knowing exactly what to do. (THANK YOU TO ALL EMERGENCY RESPONDERS!!!) They can now respond to the crisis with tools they have practiced and they know what to do! Genius. They respond with sureness and not question that they are going to do their best effort in resolving this crisis. This is what we need to do with our thinking.

Often I am replaying thoughts in my mind of, and making notes in a journal of ‘what I would prefer to happen’ and what the ‘best solution’ would be. I am making lists and focusing on solutions and meditating on goodness, wellness and positive aspects. So this morning when I woke up in a not-so-great mood, my mind would not let me go past a certain point because I have practiced more upward thoughts than not! I am so blessed and thankful for these experiences. My mind went right to reasons I need to appreciate, reasons why I am blessed and all the things I love and appreciate about my life and what I have to look forward to. We all have those things to be thankful for, even when we think we have not.

Every morning we each wake up with a clean slate. Sleep cleanses our thoughts like turning on the dishwasher at night. It is us that makes the mistake of letting our minds wander and remember ‘oh ya, I’m miserable because of…” and there we go again. But if you can start practicing your emergency thought crisis planning now, deciding what that would look like and feel like, you can start to get out of that mindset quicker when the crisis happens. It definitely takes practice. Change is a process!!!

Create positive statements and affirmations to recite at random times throughout the day, especially before bed and when you wake up. Those are precious times. Your mind is between a state of sleep-unconsciousness and consciousness, which is a sneaky way to reach your beliefs. Your beliefs after all, are just what you continue to think about all the time.

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Jessica Dumas


It has been many years since I have strolled down Selkirk Avenue. Today, I start a new journey as a project coordinator out of a Selkirk Avenue office. I came in this afternoon to dust off the desk of the previous coordinator, who is closely at reach for all my questions, Thank goodness. And because I am spoiled, I didn’t bring myself a lunch and there is no Tim Hortin’s on the block. Looks like I’ll be driving to Neechie Commons, which is not a bad thing at all!

I went to introduce myself to an E.D. down the street at another network centre, and as usual, in the midst of a conversation, got called Jennifer, no problem, happens all the time. What was most impressive to me today is that north end “renewal” projects have been physically renewing these buildings and workplaces. It’s awesome. As I have driven through these streets last few years, I didn’t know the extent of the positive changes and active business activities that are happening in these places. The flash backs begin.

The office I am working in I immediately remembered as an old antique store as soon as I walked in. My new roomie was generously Freebreezing the place and it was not as dusty as I remember it at all, and it has been replaced with nice and neat, donated office furniture instead of antique collectibles. Hello Non-profit. The lighting was the same, which makes it all the more fascinating.

One of my responsibilities is to get to know the neighbourhood, so I took a walk to a community network office down the street and when I walked in the door, I remembered walking into this same entrance about 20 years ago (OMG, did I just say 20 years ago?) and the building was joined with the next one and it was filled with discounted house hold furniture then. It was mostly clearance priced couches, bunk beds, tables and household accessories. Now it is a beautifully renovated business space. It was very refreshing to see and to meet the people I will be working with in the community.

I’m closer to family in this work location, this will be new to me too. I look forward to more flash backs and hope they are all as refreshing as these ones mentioned. Helping families and communities work better together and safe living in the community will be on my agenda for the next while. See you around!